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Sometimes, we learn through other people's mistakes...sometimes we learn from our mistakes and most of the time, we just never learn...
Sometimes, to truly understand something, we'd have to see it through its best and worst...most of the time, we'd end up not understanding it anyways...

Of late, my believe system's been going through some violent turbulence...the kind that requires you to keep your seat belt on and be prepared for theO2 masks to drop from the overhead cabin...

They say the surest thing/event in life is Death...(thats quite a parody...) to me,certain sure things are-the people who support me-the person who's my strength-my family(and a select few others) that hold/s me while i crumble into pieces and slowly try patching me up...

For sometime now, the person(lets say X) who has been the symbol of strength in my life is going through a rather weird time...thats when i saw that strength is really a funny thing...

It menifests itself in ways only those who look for it, see it...otherwise it takes on other forms and stays quiet...
In order to convince me of my inner strength, this person does everything possible to display strength...and when that becomes a norm (X always giving me the strength to go on), X really thinks i wouldnt be able to handle seeing her weak...well...truth is we know each other fairly well that we know when one of us is kinda not feeling allright...

Well...all this would then point towards FEAR...fear, is such a powerful thing that it could destroy the strongest of...you know...it shakes you up soo badly,that Courage the cowardly dog wouldn't seem so cowardly anymore!..
When you are standing outside the box looking in, you'd realise the only time your person/s X seem/s weak is when they truly acknowledge the fear they are facing and try confronting it...and only after they've confronted it,do they return to being the same strong person in your life...
But if we were to lie to ourselves about the fear, superficially we'd seem stronger...HONESTLY?...
we've lost out on one important lesson...and once we've accustomed ourselves to avoiding facing our fears, we'd turn out to be one of those things that have no perception of life around them...

'i'm not as strong as i seem...its only a facade...'
'you are strong..you are just scared...sometimes to accept something unconditionally would require letting go..and to let go...would mean losing control...and that is your biggest fear...perhaps you should try giving it a shot...it might be worth it...'
'maybe i should'

Life's too short to NOT take gambles...and sweetie, you can afford to not be all that strong, i am holding you up...

And honestly...we never learn till we make that mistake...